Every parent is concerned that their child is always safe , which is often not achieved because, as we all know, children also have to make their own mistakes, make mistakes and stumble.
However, some parents do not want to admit all this and what they do is lock their children at home.
It sounds horrible, right? The truth is that many children look like real prisoners whose parents are their main jailers .
This prevents them from being exposed to the innumerable dangers that the world has prepared for them.
Enclosing is not the solution
Enclosing prevents children from interacting with others of their age , a very important part of their childhood that they have to experiment with. If we do not allow this, they may have serious socialization problems in the future.
In addition, locking is not a solution to what parents call “the dangers of the world.” Sooner or later the children will leave home or study far away.
Then what will happen? Who will be there to protect them?
We are not aware that if we protect the little ones too much, we will cause them to be unable to cope with the different circumstances that will be addressed sooner or later.
I know the situation of a very close friend who had to suffer this kind of confinement.
She explained it to me in the following way: ” I felt like I was locked in a bubble, in which nothing bad could happen to me, although I could see all those dangers that would one day come to me.”
When she had to face the world she felt helpless, very insecure and full of doubts. The confinement caused in her many more problems than, surely, her parents thought.
Children and relationships
As we have seen, enclosing children can cause them to become adults full of insecurities and doubts . When they no longer have that support that protects them from everything, they feel vulnerable in the most normal situations.
Therefore, locking up children is not a valid solution. They need to relate at a very young age with their peers to start developing all the skills and techniques that will help them deal with all kinds of situations.
Do you want to know what it is that you snatch from your child every time you lock him up at home?
- You prevent them from learning to solve problems and solve situations on their own. All this, in addition, can cause that it rebels before norms to which it has not had to face for being inside a bubble.
- Avoid that they learn to regulate their emotions, for example, anger or anger. Children will learn to do so if they interact with others, because they will know that they will have to control them if they want to get out of a complicated situation, such as an argument.
- Avoid being independent , so they will feel helpless at the time this happens.
In addition, one consequence of this is that you will also prevent them from being responsible; Therefore, they will not be aware that they must accept the mistakes they make.
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These are some normal and important situations that will prevent your children from learning if you lock them up at home.
Let the children be happy
Children will stop being happy at the time they grow up and realize all the deficiencies they have due to the confinement they were subjected to. This will frustrate them, since it has not been their mistake.
The mistakes, the discussions, the problems to which they may be exposed will not weaken them, but will make them strong and prepared people to deal with other types of situations.
In addition, it is necessary that they learn to make friends . This will allow them to develop different skills that will help them in later interactions with co-workers, bosses, teachers, etc.
We believe that protecting is positive and we do not realize that this causes vulnerability.
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Making mistakes, making mistakes, failing, all this does nothing but allow us to learn. Because we all have to experiment on our own and, the sooner we do, the better.
Are you still going to lock up your son at home in the vain effort to protect him? Maybe it’s your own fears that are leading you to it.
Let him live, experiment, learn, enjoy.