As it is said, “the roots of trees grow more during storms”. That is, somehow, sometimes we need to suffer to learn and grow as people who have obtained some kind of wisdom from their mistakes or failures . Let’s learn a little more about this dimension today.
1. Suffering, sculptor of our brain
Surely all of us already sensed it. But experiencing continuous suffering throughout our lives subjects our brain to profound changes that will inevitably affect our personality. Think, for example, of children . In a creature that has experienced abuse from a very early age. There is nothing more destructive than a painful childhood with events like this. Doctors and psychiatrists tell us that suffering, in these cases, is similar to that of a soldier in combat.
There is continuous fear, alertness, high doses of anxiety and continued sadness. This translates into alterations in the brain and the release of certain neurotransmitters. Areas such as the amygdala or the insular cortex are stimulated, associated with fear and pain. This stimulation generates long-term consequences at the level of personality : distrust, anger, the possibility of suffering from depression and even certain doses of violence.
Obviously, the same will not happen all over the world, but the possibilities are high. Think, for example, of a marriage where there has been abuse. In the end, that excess of suffering at the brain level , will plunge us into a helplessness where depression , anger, frustration will emerge … it is something to be taken into account.
2. Suffering, master of vital learning
Life is not a peaceful path of guaranteed happiness . A straight road without stones. Absolutely. We must know that life, has its brushstrokes of pleasant emotions to learn from, but without a doubt, suffering is also a great teacher. Maybe the best And the most ruthless.
As they say, whoever has not suffered has not lived. Maybe it’s an exaggerated expression, but it’s worth taking it into account. We all have to learn from our failures, from our losses . Who does not learn from mistakes does not understand what life is: a continuous learning. Whoever does not assume the losses will not be able to take a step forward to overcome them and be stronger.
Suffering is not pleasant, we know it, but it should not be that wall that surrounds your life and that closes all your doors. Your self-esteem, your inner strength and your will must be those engines that ignite your capacity to overcome suffering. Do not forget.
3. Suffering seeks liberation
Do not accumulate your suffering for life without facing it. Living continuously with this pain will generate many problems in your brain: high levels of cortisol, high level of stress , difficulties in setting up new learning, memory loss … weakens us little by little, taking away health and emotional balance.
If it is in your hand to free yourself, simply DO IT. If there is someone who hurts you, react. If there is something that oppresses you until you feel breathless, escape or face it. Desahógate with tears, scream if you need it. Raise your voice and throw down those walls that hurt you and that without a doubt, you do not deserve. Because nobody deserves suffering, and more if it is continuous.
Find that key that offers a solution to your problems as long as it is in your power to get it. Every effort will be worth it and your health will undoubtedly deserve it.